Aural Sex for Beginners – Jessie Geoffray

Aural Sex for Beginners

In partnership with our friends at Guided by Glow

Masturbation is not an activity that requires anything outside of your own body. And often, the
challenge is just that: getting out of your head and into your body so that you can allow for pleasure and climax.

There are plenty of cues that can help us get closer to that state. Maybe it’s turning on your favorite toy or
running a bath and lighting a candle. These days, we’re listening to Guided by Glow, an app for on-demand erotic audio sessions founded
by actor and writer Sayra Player. “I lean on things like yoga and meditation for relief,” she says. “I was listening
to a meditation one day, and the man speaking had such a nice voice. I thought, Wow, that would be so nice if he
spoke to me in a sexually intimate way that is just as nourishing as what he’s doing to my body with these nonsexual
cues.”

Guided by Glow has a robust library of sessions that begin as any guided meditation would, with cues to help you
focus you on tactile things like breathing or noticing the temperature of the room. Slowly, the narrator involves
you in an imaginative experience. It’s definitely porn—it’s explicitly sexual and instructive—but you’re guided
through storytelling and simple breathwork, too. You can navigate based on what you’re in the mood for (either
someone speaking to you as if you’re in the same room as them or a story told in the third person). And you can
filter based on gender preferences and save your favorites.

Below, we’ve outlined two simple ways to make the most of aural sex.

The Shower Setup

STEP 1: SET THE MOOD

This portable diffuser is cordless and runs on a rechargeable battery—bring it with you into the bathroom,
fill it with water to the internal fill line, and add however many drops you want of your preferred essential
oil.

vitruvi
MOVE DIFFUSER
goop, $179

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STEP 2: HEIGHTEN YOUR SENSES

Wake up with the subtly spicy combination of ginger, ashwagandha, Japanese shiso leaf, Indian black pepper
oil, and pink peppercorn berries.

goop Beauty
G.DAY GINGER + ASHWAGANDHA ENERGY BODY WASH
goop, $32

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STEP 3: PRESS PLAY

Listen to a story that involves a summertime hammock slumber and, eventually, a swim with a stranger.

Guided by Glow
THE SWIM
Guided by Glow, $48 a year or $9 a month

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STEP 4: FOLLOW ALONG

We made this vibrator for exploration. The pink wonder-ball end delivers rumbly, massaging vibrations in
eight pulsating patterns that vary in intensity. The other side of the toy is designed for more-precise,
targeted stimulation of the external clitoris or to penetrate one to three inches. It’s soft and bendy; it
feels especially good pressed against the vagina’s front wall. And of course the wand is safe for water play.

goop Wellness
DOUBLE-SIDED WAND VIBRATOR
goop, $95

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The Bed Setup

STEP 1: SET THE MOOD

Using the warmth from just a candle, the burner diffuses essential oils throughout your space. Drop your
essential oil of choice in the dish up top and a tea light in the holder down below and you’ve set yourself up
for both pleasant aromatics and soft lighting.

Addition Studio
SYNERGY OIL BURNER
goop, $180

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STEP 2: HEIGHTEN YOUR SENSES

Made of pure long-fiber mulberry silk, this eye mask is luxuriously soft and soothing. Slip it on to block
out light and engage your imagination.

Slip
BLACK EYE MASK
goop, $50

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STEP 3: PRESS PLAY

Stardust is a twelve-minute guided meditation with a narrator named Van, who talks to you as if you
were alone in the same room. It’s a journey.

Guided by Glow
Stardust
Guided by Glow, $48 a year or $9 a month

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STEP 4: FOLLOW ALONG

Filare is designed to feel like a partner’s finger or swirling tongue. Instead of a vibrating motor, it has
two balls that sit and move underneath its soft silicone surface. Turn the device on and those balls rotate
around a center point. There are ten different speeds to choose from, as well as three rotation modes: one
clockwise, one counterclockwise, and one that alternates direction and varies the depth of sensation. Use it
anywhere on your body—your clitoris, your nipples, or even just your neck.

Lora DiCarlo
FILARE
goop, $150

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